I have always viewed books on relationships to be a little off. They always tend to lean in one direction. But I wanted to give this one a fair shot and I went into it with a clear mind.

This book revolves around the idea that women need to show respect and men need to show love.  And it stops there.  It left a bad taste in my mouth.  I know many women that deserve respect and many men that crave love.  However this isn’t explored.  It may have worked at some point, but men like women with a soft side, that don’t just say “YES SIR”

Once I realized this would be the context of the book, I moved on and accepted that each gender would be taught how to do those specific roles.  Not quite the case.  This book was written to essentially teach women how to respect the man.  Any man that picks up this book will not be given ways on how to love a women.  They will just be reinforced on the notion that they “deserve” respect.

Eggerichs example on how women prefer pink and men prefer blue (while some do) seems a bit outdated to me.  While, yes, you go into an office for a woman and it has light colours, and an office for a man is usually draped in dark wood, it’s not like that is ALL they like.  It made me laugh as I looked around my own office, then went to visit my husbands.

I found the following statement in this book rather irritating as well: “this is how a woman’s mind works”  Really?  You spoke with EVERY woman.  You can’t even make that statement about men, how does he think it applies to women, who are typically more complex!!

I am not saying this book does not make good points.  It does.  But for me it was a little patronizing.  And that would be fine, it is was the point of the book.  But the whole point was to show BOTH sides of the issue and present them in a realistic way.  A way that works with todays families.  This point was missed in this book.

My advice to people, stop reading these books, and actually listed and talk to your partner.